Commitment, Relationship Wealth, and Bringing Love Back into Marriage
She said “Tell me what marriage means to you”.
I closed my eyes and felt into my truth and said:
“Marriage is the Ultimate YES”
“Marriage is saying:
Yes, I will wake up completely to what love is and what love is not
Yes, I will heal everything that gets in the way of our connection
Yes, I will truly listen to you
Yes I will seek to know you, to understand you intimately, to know your truth
Yes to all of your grief, your loss, your trauma’s, your pain
And yes to all of the joy, happiness, bliss, loss, grief, and life we will go through together.
Yes to all emotions
Yes to your E/roticism and pleasure
Yes to smoldering, hot, juicy S/x
Yes to healthy boundaries
Yes to sharing my microscopic truth.
Yes to exploring our internal wounds and yes to the deepest intimacy.
Yes to evolving together and to growth.
Yes to accepting you and being accepted by you
Yes to expressing daily gratitude for each other.
Yes to your soul and the reason you were born.”
“I say yes to it all with you sacred partner.”
And she said “Yes”.
I then asked her what marriage meant to her. She said:
“Marriage is the ultimate freedom of bringing all parts of me to you, to our shared altar of alchemical transformation. And in deep heart and S/xy devotion to you, to us, to my truth, we open into the vast oneness of all.
Marriage is taking full responsibility for my own reality and recognizing victim consciousness, blame and projection and making a different choice for how I will show up to you, to myself and in our relationship.
Marriage is saying yes to our divinity and humanity and knowing each other’s traumas and wounding and being tender when we tread there.
Marriage is to hold and protect each other’s hearts as we continuously let go of what no longer serves us and the discomfort that healing can bring up.
Marriage is always encouraging each other to be our best, to wake up and shine our light.
Marriage is the yoga of Relationship and Sacred Intimacy and seeing our relationship as the deepest spiritual practice for going into the fire, for going all in for love and for using all friction as practice for awakening to our truth and purpose.
Marriage is a commitment to use our tools and practices when we communicate and commune together.
Marriage is a great gift and takes responsibility, commitment, maturity and nurturance. When marriage with you fills my heart so fully, I can’t help but want to share this overflowing love with others. A healthy marriage is service to the world, to life.”
And I said “Yes.”
